Surrogacy - My take.

I have partaken in discussions with friends, family and even foes.  Discussions  that have raised questions with no answers forthcoming and caused my mind to wander farther than it should. One of these discussions concerns surrogacy and the views that it is sinful and simply wrong. I am not a medical doctor but the little I know is this - Surrogacy is when  another woman conceives and gives birth to a baby, for a couple who want a child.  Couples would usually opt for surrogacy due to infertility/inability to have children.  

How does surrogacy work? There is Gestational and Traditional surrogacy.   Gestational Surrogacy involves the implantation of an embryo created using either: the eggs and sperm of the intended parents, a donated egg fertilised with sperm from the intended father or an embryo created using donor eggs and sperm. 

While Traditional surrogacy involves sperm from the intended father and an egg from the surrogate. Here fertilisation is (usually) done by artificial insemination or intrauterine insemination. Now, I am totally in support of surrogacy and would encourage couples who have tried all other options and failed to conceive, to go for  it. Even though I honestly won't consider being a surrogate. I doubt I would be willing to give up a child I birth, regardless of the baby not having my DNA. There certainly would be an emotional bond between me and the foetus and I might just end up wanting to keep the baby and thereby causing the intending parents much more pain. 

I have been told that a married Christian  couple opting for surrogacy is wrong, sinful and unnatural/anti-nature. And I ask is having a heart transplant and a kidney transplant 'natural'? What of a face transplant after an accident that totally destroys the facial features? Are transplants natural? Still awaiting an  answer. "Surrogacy is just wrong! Children are gifts from God they are not our right, the Bible says so. If a couple can't have kids they should just leave it to God". And I ask yet again. Isn't Wealth is a gift from God? Not everybody will be wealthy. So why do you keep working and hoping and working towards acquiring  wealth? Why don't you just sit and relax and forget about money!? Abi is it your right to be wealthy"? No answers still... And then they say again " there was nothing like surrogacy in the Bible. Let us live according to the word". This one is  actually funny to me. When God slew Onan in Genesis chapter 38,what do you think that was about? Jacob bearing children with Zilpha on behalf of Leah his wife is what(Genesis 30:9)? Go and read Deuteronomy 25:5 also. Hope you also know that Sarah used Hagar as a surrogate when she and Abraham couldn't conceive. Then they say "Na wa for you O! All these events happened in the old testament naa". i agree but isn't the book of Mark new testament? Please read Mark 12:19. All the above mentioned people in the Bible were committing adultery and fornication but the type of surrogacy practiced today, nobody is having Intercourse or looking at another lustfully , so what exactly is the sin here? So Gulliana Rancic and her husband Bill have done a great wrong by using a surrogate, even though Gulliana was battling cancer, had a double mastectomy and dealing with the effects  of  chemotherapy?  I see absolutely nothing wrong in surrogacy or one deciding to be a surrogate. Most of the people who wouldn't support surrogacy have children of their own and I can bet they wouldn't be against it, if they didn't have kids and desired to. Somebody somewhere will be saying "OK, it is not a sin but it is unethical and morally wrong." and I ask morals as determined by what??? As a Christian the Bible determines what a sin is. I believe other religious books also state what they consider sin. The Constitution/determines what a crime/misdemeanor/simple offence is. Dos and donts  clearly stated. But please what determines immorality? If only people understood the kind of pain and torture couples who desire to have children and are unable to, pass through, they will just let them be. I respect the right of people to hold alternative views on issues such as surrogacy but I also expect them to bring forth evidence to prove that surrogacy is indeed sinful and wrong.  Cheers! 

I AM THE DUCHESS.