Hush Hush! Do not tell. Do not spill.

In the  past few days, social media platforms have been abuzz with controversy. Spilled secrets. Allegations. Counter allegations. She said. She did. She slept with. They slept with. The child doesn't belong to... Etcetera etcetera. A controversy that involves two friends Abike and Jibike. A friendship formerly sweeter than cheese cake and apple pie now tasting like a combination of bile and Aloevera extract. The whole fight seems very childlike to me. Last time I witnessed such secret spilling drama was in primary school when Tolu told Dahlia she liked Donald, Obinna and Lekan and told Dahlia not to tell anyone. But Dahlia also had a crush on Donald so she got jealous and told everyone. They all started calling Tolu 'spoilt girl'. Tolu didn't return to school the next term 😥. A secret is anything not meant to be known, heard or seen by others. Secrets are strictly confidential, classified, unrevealed, under wraps, , off the record and absolutely private. In my opinion, they must remain untold and uncommunicated. That secret you do not want anyone to know , do not tell it to anyone! "If this comes out, people will make me a butt of their jokes and mock me".  don't tell anyone! The secret getting out will cause mass destruction, don't tell anyone! "If this secret comes out, I will consider suicide!" Then don't bleeding tell anyone! Simple! Don't even write it in your diary! Bury it. Pretend it never happened and stay in denial. Develop 'selective amnesia' and try to forget it (forgetfulness like ignorance is sometimes  bliss!). Tell it to your dog or any pets you keep. You believe in a supreme being? Then tell it to Him. Just don't you dare tell it to any human. Spilled secrets turn to world wide gossip, faster than the speed of light. For your own sanity, take it to your grave! In life, some people continually try to put two and two together, trying to figure out what's happening  in your life, so why give it to them on a platter of gold, by giving them first hand information. Why???
And you dear Ms secret revealer, But why??? Why do you have to reveal secrets that your 'friend' told you. It might have been naive of her to have trusted you 100% to tell you her secret but it is insensitive, crass, nefarious, barbaric and absolutely mean for you to tell her secrets to another. It's immaterial if you are no longer friends . I understand that sometimes it takes too much to protect secrets. However, it’s a good thing that someone considers you a confidant and worthy enough to keep their secrets safe. Pat your back, put a smile on your face,  count your blessings and kindly shut the heck up! Secrets are not to be disclosed. Secrets are not for publication or circulation. Yet again, shut the heck up!!!
To people who trust others 100+% enough to tell them their deepest secrets, as a human being, aren't there things that you do sometimes that make you ponder, ask yourself questions and even distrust yourself - "I can't believe I just did that!" Did I just do that?" "That's so unlike me!". Yet you trust another so much you tell them something very private and believe so much that they will never say? The very moment you have second thoughts about saying something, do not say it! "should I tell?". "maybe I shouldn't". "I trust her, let me just...". If it's so important that you have to ponder and think deeply about saying, then don't say it! Avoid the paranoia that comes with telling someone your secret. Once you spill, you start thinking anyone who looks at you 'somehow',  knows your secret and is definitely thinking 'I know what you did last summer'. Save yourself the torture. Say nothing to no one. Keep your secret exactly what it is , a SECRET! C'est fini.

I AM THE DUCHESS.